Sometimes the most difficult decision is to not martyr yourself for someone, but instead to choose to live for them.
Men reject their prophets and slay them, but they love their martyrs and honor those whom they have slain.[Не принимает род людской пророков своих и избивает их, но любят люди мучеников своих и чтят тех, коих замучили.]
Martyrs, cher ami, must choose between being forgotten, mocked, or made use of. As for being understood – never!