My love, we live in a world that distrusts feelings. Over and over, we are reminded that feelings are not as important as reason. That feelings are childish, irresponsible, dangerous. We are taught to ignore them, control, or deny them. We barely understand what they are, where they come from, or how they seem to understand us better than we understand ourselves. But I know that feelings matter. Sometimes, they’re little, like when I smell cinnamon toast and I miss my grandma. And sometimes, they are huge, like when I found out my girlfriend shares her thoughts with seven other people around the world. However, if you’re lucky, I mean, really lucky, a feeling comes along that will change everything. I remember such a feeling and how it walloped me years ago when this girl walked into my bookstore. It is the same feeling that I have right now. The feeling that this is her. My love. My wife. This is my future. And I trust this feeling more than I have trusted anything in my life.[to Nomi]
Here’s the thing. We all wake up and we have to take the same Terms and Conditions box: Everyday stuff will happen to you. Some of it will be good. Some of it will be bad. Choice is less about what happens than it is about how we deal with it.