You think love is black and white. All women think that. And they’re wrong. Women are really intelligent except for when they’re being really stupid.
Why did she think tall people couldn’t be crazy? Because they looked like they ruled the world? Because she admired them and coveted their legs?
The suffragettes didn’t starve themselves for the vote
so that you girls could starve yourselves for a man.[—Ellen’s godmother Mel]
It’s amazing how friends can slip through your fingers, how your social network can vanish like it never existed.
If only you were born a hundred years ago, when you could have gone through days of natural labor before bleeding naturally to death.
Friendship is the only cure for hatred,
the only guarantee of peace.[Buddhist quote on Ellen O’Farrell’s notice board]
Dying was such an elegant way to leave a relationship. No infidelity, no boredom, no long, complicated conversations late into the night. No “She’s still single, I hear.” No running into each other at parties and weddings. No “She’s stacked on the weight” or “She’s showing her age.” Dying was final and mysterious and gave you the last word forever.
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.[Buddhist quote on Ellen’s bathroom mirror]
All that we are is a result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.[Buddhist quote on Ellen O’Farrell’s refrigerator]