The programme of becoming happy, which the pleasure principle imposes on us, cannot be fulfilled; yet we must not – indeed, we cannot – give up our efforts to bring it nearer to fulfilment by some means or other.[Das Programm, welches uns das Lustprinzip aufdrängt, glücklich zu werden, ist nicht zu erfüllen, doch darf man – nein, kann man – die Bemühungen, es irgendwie der Erfüllung näherzubringen, nicht aufgeben.]
Happiness isn’t some permanent thing we’re all trying to achieve in life, it’s merely a thing that shows up every now and then, sometimes in tiny doses that are just substantial enough to keep us going.
You shall not, for the sake of one individual, change the meaning of principle and integrity, nor endeavour to persuade yourself or me, that selfishness is prudence, and insensibility of danger, security for happiness.
Those born to wealth, and who have the means of gratifying every wish, know not what is the real happiness of life, just as those who have been tossed on the stormy waters of the ocean on a few frail planks can alone realize the blessings of fair weather.
You make the mistake of thinking you have to choose, that you have to do what you want, that there are conditions for happiness. What matters – all that matters, really – is the will to happiness, a kind of enormous, everpresent consciousness. The rest – women, art, suecess – is nothing but excuses. A canvas waiting for our embroideries.[C’est de croire qu’il faut choisir, qu’il faut faire ce qu’on veut, qu’il y a des conditions du bonheur. Ce qui compte seulement, tu vois, c’est la volonté du bonheur, une sorte d’énorme conscience toujours présente. Le reste, femmes, œuvres d’art ou succès mondains, ne sont que prétextes. Un canevas qui attend nos broderies.]
Seize the moments of happiness, love and be loved! That is the only reality in the world, all else is folly.[Лови минуты счастия, заставляй себя любить, влюбляйся сам! Только это одно есть настоящее на свете – остальное всё вздор.]
It’s so hard to forget pain, but it’s even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.
A mathematical formula for happiness: Reality divided by Expectations.There were two ways to be happy:improve your reality or lower your expectations.
You have to be willing to be happy. Despite the mess of your life – just accept what’s happened, throw away your ideals, and create a new map of happiness to follow.