My second husband always said, “Love is putting other person over yourself.” But as soon as you are born, you cry for Mommy’s milk. You do not care about her. You only care about yourself. Maybe you put others over self a few times, but only when it is easy. The universe is not designed for this. Thank God we survived billions of years from tiny cell to bacteria to monkey because we only care about self. That is why capitalism works. It is a system of nature. System of the self. Love lives in this system. All relationships exist in this system. They’re all the same, another way to serve the self.